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Lessons Learned after a month of fatherhood

For most of my life I’ve made special efforts to avoid babies. When a friend has given birth I would visit and say the right things but politely decline if asked to hold the baby. Or feed the baby. Or change the baby.

Why? Babies never really interested me and I was worried that I would break someone else’s baby. I didn’t need that pressure in my life.

Now, of course, I’m the father of two tiny babies and I can’t continue my baby avoiding ways (though I did avoid changing their diapers for the first week or so of their lives when they were in the NICU. I figured the nurses were far better at it than I. Until one evening I was about to leave and a nurse said, “Would you like to change Declan?” I couldn’t very well tell the truth, so I changed his diaper. I’ve now changed both of them many, many times. I will say that while I avoided changing them I did watch the nurse’s technique to prepare myself for the reality I would soon be facing, so I’m not completely awful).

I share all of this to establish that I didn’t know much about babies going into fatherhood. I’ve now learned a few things that I thought I should share with folks who are also ignorant in the ways of the baby:

I’m sure allow of this is old news to people, or stuff that most will find obvious but they were news to me.

This tiny baby business isn’t for the faint of heart (though Marisa and I keep saying, “just having one baby must be so easy!” No offense to you singleton parents out there, but you’ve got it easy).

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